Sunday, 9 October 2016

5 ways to feel more beautiful, powerful and feminine.

We're all in this together us women. Wading our way through endless lists of 'do's and dont's.' How to be more feminine, powerful, sensual, better mother, friend, lover. The goal posts change with every generation so it's not just teenagers that seek to answer; 'Who am I?'

Last month we tried to define femininity and discovered that a precise definition is impossible. To be truly feminine, in this day and age, is to accept yourself and others the way they are. Steel-cap boots can be equally as feminine as the highest stilettos. Our real aim is self mastery, but we continue to use the word feminine for its gentleness and strength.
nothing as strong as gentleness
Today we are removing the layers of BB creams and lycra and getting back to the basics of self love, self care and discover where the true beauty and strength of femininity lies.

1. Breathe.

Our most essential source of energy is oxygen. Babies breathe deeply. By the time we reach adulthood many of us breath unconsciously and only take a deep breath when we yawn or sigh.

Shallow breathing is a signal to the body that we are stressed out. Stress causes our adrenal glands to work in overdrive. When our body is stressed our circulation, mind ... everything is weakened. Stress is the root cause all sorts of physical and mental illness. The best way to energise ourselves is to learn some simple breathing techniques that will increase the flow of oxygen throughout our whole body.

-Start by lying on the floor (eventually you can do it sitting, driving, reading. Make a habit out of it and it will soon become an unconscious action.)
-Place one hand on your diaphragm and the other on your belly.
-Breathe in slowly until your tummy starts to push against your lower hand for 3 counts.
-Hold your breath for the count of four. The pause between each breath is just as important as inhalation and exhalation. -Purse your lips and slowly breathe out to the count of 7 or longer. Tighten your abdominal muscles and feel the hand on your belly lower again.
-The hand on your chest should remain still the entire time.
-Pause and repeat.

Try and do this breathing exercise for 3-5 minutes before going to sleep. Gradually increase it to 10 minutes or more, 3 or more times a day.

2. Body Brushing.

After the breath work starts to help your inner body function as it should, we can move to the outer body. Last month we discussed a simple bathing routine to rejuvenate your mind and body. This month we'll take a look at the ancient ritual of dry skin or body brushing. 

Dry brushing your skin helps improve your lymphatic system, boost your energy levels, relieves tired muscles, reduces cellulite and makes your skin glow. Dry brushing can be done before or after showering. Add a little oil to the brush if you do it after bathing to moisturise your skin at the same time. 

Long or short handle natural bristle brushes, loofahs or abrasive gloves are all effective and can be bought online or in pharmacies.

-Start brushing at your feet with long strokes or circular motions on your legs, pay particular attention to your inner thighs.
-Brush gently towards lymphatic drainage ducts that lie in the centre of your chest.
-Move to the back of your hands and work up your arms, remember you armpits where lots of lymph glands are located.
-Follow through with downward movements on the neck and shoulders.
-Finally, do circular movements on the belly. Dear Aphrodite's choice is clockwise as it seems intuitive to the direction of the colon, but there is no right or wrong here. Do what feels right for you.

Body brushing is best done in the morning because it is so energising. While some exfoliation does occur you should never scratch your skin. You can also gently dry brush your face with a smaller brush.

Charis Malina Brown has some other great tips for natural face cleansing and how to feel beautiful without wearing makeup.

3. Move your body.

Last month we covered the benefits of exercise and dancing your way towards femininity. Unfortunately one of the videos was removed by youtube. Fortunately, Dear Aphrodite has found another full 30 minute belly dancing workout for beginners that has great music. 

Even if you have two left feet belly dancing will strengthen your core muscles (no more back pain), tone your arms in time for summer, harness the energy of your sacral chakra, reduce menstrual cramping, improve digestion and your mood and make you feel sexy.

4. More than just yoga.

Rosie Rees says, "womens nude yoga is a practice in vulnerability, courage and radical self acceptance."

Dear Aphrodite loves Rosie's website and her products. Pelvic floor exercises are well established in the practice of yoga, but did you know ancient Chinese Taoists used a crystal jade egg inserted into the vagina to strengthen, tone and train the pelvic floor muscles? Here is Rosie explaining how to use one. Feedback from our clients has been that it makes them feel very powerful.

Rosie offers nude yoga workshops throughout the Australia. If group work is a little out of your comfort zone start in your underwear at home on your own. 

Dianne Bondy is one of many yogis debunking the myth that yoga is only for instagram snapping, exotic location, expensive sports wear loving self proclaimed guru's.

Just watching her ad will make every woman feel more confident and feminine.

5. Discover your ugly.

Our final step towards inner beauty sounds counterintuitive. In Jungian psychology it is referred to as shadow work. C. G. Jung said 'People will do anything, no matter how absurd, to avoid facing their own souls.' Mellissa La Flamme delves deep into the subject in her new book "What you are for. Inciting a revolution in your soul." 

Not everything bad happens to us, it is also created by us. It is only when we move through the darker sides of our nature that we can begin to really connect and accept ourselves. 

Our femininity and sensuality lies in the acceptance of who we are, not how we look or what we own. 

Since ancient times both women and men have sought out ways to discover the true essence of who we really are, why we're really here. We seek connection, clarity and balance sometimes in all the wrong places. 

Traditional rituals have been rediscovered or still exist today, because they work. They are easier and more attainable than we remember at times. Their beauty and power is in their simplicity. 


In case you missed it: Dr Nikki Goldstein published an article about our James Bond/Christian Grey look-a-like gentleman Spencer. Confessions of an Australian male-escort. I don't just get booked for sex. She admits to buying less shoes and saving her pennies in case she decides to book an appointment with Aphrodisiac male escorts one day.

Dear Aphrodite hopes you enjoyed this months blog. Let us know if you try any of our tested techniques and what results they have for you. 

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Monday, 1 August 2016

The art of feminine sensuality in 5 easy steps.

We are born female, become women but what make us feminine?
"Sugar and Spice and all things nice..." 
This line from a 19th century nursery rhyme is one of the first definitions of femininity in our childhood. In 2016 little girls are not so innocent anymore. Sugar is sweet but deadly. A spoonful of cinnamon can suffocate you. Chilli burns and exotic spices blended with the right ingredients become flavours we crave.

In our attempt to define femininity now, we first turned to google:

  1. the quality of being female; womanliness.
    "she celebrates her femininity by wearing make-up and high heels"
    synonyms:womanliness, feminineness, womanhood, womanly qualities, feminine qualities
    "she had always delighted in her femininity"

Yes. Really. Must have been defined by a man!

Apparently make-up and high heels make women more womanly... ugh! Sure, heels make our calves look more defined and give an illusion of length, but swaying your hips naturally when you walk, is best done with bare feet.

In TAO philosophy all things female are defined as Yin (the shady side) and Yang is the bright side. Neither Yin nor Yang are absolute. You can't have one without the other. Each aspect contains the beginning point for the other aspect. Day (Yang) becomes night, becomes day again...and the times of day that yin becomes yang changes, daily. 

In truth femininity is so fluid it's hard, impossible even, to define. Perhaps it's the opposite of masculinity? Though, if masculine equals strength, are women then weak?

Of course not!! Both words are subjective. Similarly the word love. 

Love can be felt, but is unseen.
Love is neither masculine or feminine rather it is something we sense.
We are all capable of loving. 

Femininity can't be defined absolutely because women are constantly evolving. 
In the 50's it meant being subservient, the 60's released us from our bras.
The new millennium is a time for being happy in your own skin, no matter our differences.

Ancient Eastern traditions present several masculine and feminine polarities which govern the body. 
The back half is male and our support structure. The front is female our creative side. The lower half is female and is governed by an energy centre that lies just below the belly button known as the sacral chakra. It is the centre of our mind and sexuality.

In psychology the male-female relationship is understood as femininity relating to intuition, governed by the right brain which controls the left side of the body. Masculine is cognitive, left brain and right side of the body.  

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Dear Aphrodite knows being feminine is integrating all aspects of ourselves including our sensuality.  
At our core lies love but in striving to be good at everything we often suppress our energy centres especially our sensuality.

Dear Aphrodite has come up with 5 ways to secure our sensuality.


When we begin to explore and learn, we taste, feel, smell, listen and see.... We use all of our 5 senses. We are not afraid to venture out of our comfort zone. Imagine doing a blind tasting. In order to heighten our sense of taste we block our sight. We allow ourselves to be vulnerable by putting on a blindfold in order to enhance our experience of taste.   

The sacral chakra helps to open up our senses. In the short video below Ashley Turner explains the role of our sacral chakra and the last 5 minutes is an easy Yoga routine to try.


When was the last time you paid attention to the way you walk. Are you aware your foot makes 5 separate movements between hitting the ground and taking off again?

First, take your shoes off and feel the outer edge of your heel touch the ground. Notice your foot turn slightly inward before turning out again and landing at the base of your little toe. Then it rolls in towards the ball of your foot and finally takes off from the large toe. Our leg muscles then support and resist each other until our hips connects the top half of the body, then sway to change the centre of balance as we take a second step.

If we are mindful of each step we become more aware of our surroundings. Walking can be a meditative practice connecting us to our body, the environment and other people.  
Try a slow barefoot walk for 5-10 minutes. Now imagine applying the same consciousness in other areas of your life.


We spend so much time and money in  beauty salons, on clothes that define or hide specific body parts so we 'look good.' We clean our body, cover our faces, set our style. We perfect our routine and race out the door, but does it make us feel beautiful? Do yourself a favour this weekend and take some time to gently cleanse your body. Go to spa or do it your self at home. Next month we will explore dry skin brushing to revitalise your body. 

This month take a tip from an ancient Indian ritual and try washing your body in slow circular movements over all of your joints, sideways across your torso and in long back and forth strokes over each of your long bones. Enjoy the attention to detail that no-one else will probably even notice.  In dry skin brushing we stroke towards the heart but in the bath the stroke can be both ways. 
You can even use the same cleansing ritual in your daily shower.
Let your skin and body relish the extra attention... it costs little but a few minutes of your time.


Before the bubonic plague women were described by their roles. Maiden, wife, widow. This quickly evolved after almost half the population died. Society began to realise the strength of a woman. Lucky we don't have to fight off plagues anymore, but we can pack a mean punch (in a boxing class,) climb mountains or do some squats in our spare time. The benefits of exercise are not just physical.  Strong bones, strong muscle, strong mind and Dear Aphrodite's favourite benefit a strong libido.  

5) DANCE.  

It doesn't matter what type of dancer you are. Turn on your favourite music, move your body. Watch yourself in front of the mirror or let the music flow gracefully through you in the lounge room or office... Move until your temperature starts to rise and keep going.
Dance all stress and inhibitions away, dance your ass off (or your belly/thighs if you prefer.) For inspiration, tune into your inner love Goddess with this beautiful belly dancing workout. Dear Aphrodite loves that the music isn't traditional. It's effortless, easy and oh so sexy.

How many of the 5 steps do you regularly do for yourself? 
Will you try to give them a try?  
In truth there are a lot more than just 5 steps to becoming more sensual.  
Our next post will delve further into sensual practices through the ages, more practical techniques, including breathing to help balance our mojo...  
See this as a starting point. After mastering a technique we must challenge ourselves to develop it further. Are you ready?  

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Monday, 8 February 2016

An escort reveals how a threesome can spice up or save your marriage.

Four people, an exclusive hotel and a threesome.

We love a juicy story. Intimate details about the personal lives of people that do things we're afraid to dream about sell millions of tabloids the world over. It's one thing to do something daring and break free from the traditional normal. We reach a whole new level when people share their adventures or some snippets of their lifestyles choices.

This months blog post is bought to you by Aphrodisiac Male Escorts only female escort, Erica.  Aphrodisiacs caters exclusively to women, but Erica doesn't mind men getting in on the action, or catering to the needs of a man that wants to please a woman.  Let's face it, there ain't an abundance of excellent lovers out there. Erica knows how to teach. 

Threesomes are often thought of as being for the joy of men. Erica will equal the playing field. 

In some cultures Aunties teach nieces how to make their men better lovers. In our culture Erica is the kind of woman that can empower a woman to feel pleasure again or even for the first time. Show and tell is such an easy way to learn. 

Communication is often emotionally charged and difficult when the subject is sex. Erica might even save an unsatisfying or asexual marriage, or your sanity. If you dare. 


Introducing Erica...

 I’ve been asked by the team at Aphrodisiac Male Escorts to write for our blog. As the only female escort currently working for Aphrodisiac I guess I have a unique perspective and we thought it would be worth sharing with you. 

I’m a liberated creature, I view sex with an open heart and mind and as such I like to call myself fluid. I’m not big on labels. I appreciate both the male and female experience. I am not confined by the prejudices and judgments of society. 

I aim to push through common convictions and love to challenge the status quo, in doing so I hope to introduce new opportunities and experiences and equalise the playing field, so to speak. So please enjoy my first blog post, as I certainly hope to entertain and enthral you all with many more. 

Sex is empowering and should be viewed as such. To truly embrace that power you must be open to new experiences. 

If you have a partner you must trust that person enough to know that ‘sharing’ a new experience can, if you let it, enrich your lives together and not over burden it with fear and jealousy. This type of experience is not for everyone, or perhaps you simply haven’t arrived at this juncture. 

Surely it is worth exploring all avenues before giving up on a marriage or long-term relationship, perhaps all you need is a little spice. A little spice keeps things nice….so please consider my offering, I promise both of you an experience to remember. 
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My first booking with Aphrodisiac was one such experience.  To most it would seem like the plot to a Hollywood movie… 

I was flown to Noosa, (I’ve never been) put up in the hotel of my choice. I was to meet a couple who are from Melbourne but were staying at their holiday home throughout the summer. 

They chose for our little rendezvous to happen in this exotic setting rather then the familiarity of their everyday existence. I’m certainly not complaining! It worked well as we had one of our gentlemen escorts Adam, living in Noosa at the time and the couple had booked us as a double. For privacies sake I'll call the couple Karen and John. 

Karen and John are an attractive couple in there fifties and this is a second marriage for both of them. John, as often is the case, had experienced ménage a trios’ and was a lot more comfortable than Karen in venturing beyond the norms of monogamy.

Adam picked me up from my hotel room. I was eager to meet our companions for the evening, excited and nervous at the same time. Lucky we didn’t have to drive far. 

We were greeted warmly by John when we arrived while Karen was waiting for us on the undercover balcony. 

We started the evening chatting over a few wines, which was fun, but it was mostly to calm Karen's nerves. This was a first time experience for her. 

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I was struck by John's love and concern for Karen. His gentle assurance throughout the evening, especially in the beginning, was gorgeous to watch. The whole experience, whilst more familiar to John, was new for the both of them. 

John wanted Karen to try something new. She was to be the centre of our worlds and to be honest he just wanted to enjoy the show and let his partner enjoy our attention. 

I took control of the evening when I thought the time was right, better to act now then let Karen’s nerves get the better of her. We moved into the beautifully decorated lounge. Adam and John watched from the kitchen area drinking in the view with an intense quiet interest.

I slowly undressed myself, revealing my alluring Pleasure State lingerie to everyone. Karen sat on the spacious lounge just centimetres from me. Then I carefully and expertly undressed Karen revealing her sexy, silky underwear which made me want her even more….

Her breath hung on every move I made, her anticipation and nervous excitement escaped her lips each time I touched her skin and brushed her full breasts. It was now Adam’s turn to take control. Before I completely forgot about him lost in exploring Karen, he moved us all into the master bedroom. 

Both he and I focused our attentions solely on Karen as John watched. We made her feel beautiful and cherished, sexy and desirable and honestly in her willingness and vulnerability she was. 

Karen had never been with a women before and having a man like Adam devour you in the bedroom as her husband watched made Karens‘s whole energy naughty, beautiful and exuberant. Our experience triggered something in her that only this sort of letting go of the body and mind can bring. 
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Finally after hours of sexy play and naked, sweaty fun everyone lay exhausted on the bed, except John. He had watched the entire time from a chair close by. John offered us another wine and then Adam and I dressed and prepared to leave.

I was spent, Karen was spent and John just looked like all of his Christmases had come at once. As often is the case I could tell that Karen & John were eager to have some time to themselves to recount the evening, to make love while the smells and sexy intoxication were still heavy in the room. 

Adam dropped me off at my hotel and I spent what was left of my evening recounting my own experience. I’m always left in a satiated alternative state after such a booking and I like to reflect on the success and events of the evening.

Finally I succumbed to a restful slumber then enjoyed a light breakfast in Noosa before heading to the Sunshine Coast airport and inevitably home.

My final take on the evening. For his part John put a lot of trust in Karen to explore and experience something so taboo and yet new and exciting. When you love someone, surely this is a gift worth giving. They both put a lot of trust in Adam and I and we respected that trust implicitly. 

That evening brought this couple closer. It is the trust and willingness that does it, not the sex and nakedness, although that certainly is the fun part…

Till next time

I’d love to hear your thoughts, 



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