This is your fantasy.

The key was under the mat. Just as she'd planned, Blake let himself in. Her instructions were clear. He called out her name and followed her voice to the bathroom. She had never done this before but she didn't want it to feel like the first time. He opened the door and smiled.  He was so unexpectedly exotic she gasped. Suddenly nervous, she had to remind herself to stick to the plan, just as he was doing. As she reached for the conditioner he removed his tie and unbuttoned his shirt.

He sat down on the stool she had left beside the bathtub and gently took the bottle from her hands. He asked her how her day was as he squirted too much conditioner into his palm. Words escaped her she sighed as he applied the conditioner to her hair. He slowly massaged the conditioner deep into her scalp. His hands descended down the back of her neck and across her shoulders. He cupped her chin in his hands, looked her in the eyes and kissed her lips as if they were rose petals. Long after he leaned back the kiss lingered and she longed for more.  He glided his hands down her arms and guided her hands up over her own breasts. She closed her eyes. As though they'd rehearsed the scene a thousand times he slid his hands down to her waist. One hand continued across her stomach and gently over her thigh.

When he reached her knees he used both hands to spread them apart.  He started massaging his way down her inner thighs and when his fingers gently teased her lips apart the real fantasy began. From this point he was free to do as he pleased... to please her. No introductions necessary.

Do you have a fantasy in mind. Does it involve a male escort like our adventurous woman above? Dear Aphrodite has read and heard about a few dating disasters over the years.  Women like Rosie Waterland shared her experience with online dating recently. At 28 years of age she went on her first date. We admire her ability to share her story, but pity her experience. Sadly dating disasters are not easy to forget. The price could have been a less if she had hired someone like Blake, even if it did cost few more dollars.  

Log in or register at Aphrodisiac Me to check out Blake's profile if you want to let him be your fantasy. Have you had a dating disaster you want to share with us? Even if hiring an escort isn't one of her fantasies Dear Aphrodite thinks Rosie might have been better off spending the night on her own. Dear Aphrodite would have preferred to read about the great experience she had with one of her sex toys, than know about her unsatisfying sex, because not having sex would have been more awkward.  (If that is enen possible.)

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Why do we expect so much from ourselves but not nearly as much from the men we meet. If we don't honour ourselves how can we expect to fulfil our fantasies and satisfy our souls? Many of us prefer to be alone than admit we like someone and run the risk of them not liking us back.  How many of you are guilty of assessing your self worth based on whether or not someone you hardly know has responded to your texts, or how they view you and treat you. Why are we so quick to make excuses for potential companions and blame ourselves if it doesn't work out the way we were hoping?


In an article featured on Elephant Journal this month we learn 10 things every woman should know - Dear Aphrodite subscribes to number 5 but number 9 identifies just how often women belittle themselves.  

One of the ways we can combat this problem is presented in a brilliant advertisement by Pantene. The issue of women over apologising has been bought to light. We are in no way sponsored by or promoting Pantene - we just think their ad rocks.




No matter how turned off we are, or become at times, we all crave intimacy.  Dear Aphrodite believes it's the times you insist you don't need it, can't be bothered or aren't at all interested that you probably need it most.

We are masters of contradicting ourselves. Shirley Zussman is 100 years old and is still practicing as a sex therapist. In her recent interview with Time she explained the biggest change she has witnessed in her lengthy career (100 years old and still practicing) is lack of intimacy. People are too busy and not taking the timw to connect with each other.  

In her article Soul fucking Debra Faith Warshaw explores the importance of connecting deeply with another person. Dear Aphrodite knows many of you fantasise about this.  Like tantric sex she explains 

"An interesting thing about this spiritual practice is that it doesn't necessarily have to be with a long-term committed soul mate (although that is a bonus.) We might very well experience it with an enlightened partner that visits us briefly in our life, opens us up in brand new ways and then leaves; another type of soul mate if you will"

The feedback from our intelligent accomplished, discerning clients is that they know their limitations. They embrace hiring an escort as a tool to better themselves. They are not deluding themselves, they go in with eyes wide open. Our gentlemen are facilitators  - whether it's straight sex or nurturing they are experienced in opening up women to new experiences.  

Make no mistakes about it - Sexual energy is the most powerful energy of all, it is quite literally the essence of our being and it is healing. We all know it only works if it is done right. Fortunately there is no one right way of doing it. Not everybody wants a relationship, some people just need a release. Sometimes connecting with another person helps you connect with yourself. It doesn't mean it is meaningless or disconnected it can be the key to a deeper connection with yourself... or an aspect of yourself. Women don't do this light heatedly.

If you want further evidence of the satisfaction of women who have chosen to do what feels right for them check out the 
Testimonials page on Aphrodisiac ME. Dear Aphrodite has too many favourites to choose from but this excerpt strikes a chord on so many levels 

"... I just wanted to let you know how grateful I am to you and what a pleasure it’s been speaking to you. The service you and Regina have created has helped me in so many ways. I know I don’t have anything else to compare it to but it doesn’t take a genius to realise that your establishment compares to no other..."

In other news this month Anna and Regina were interviewed by Laine Chait on Booty Call airwaves radio. Also check out last months blog Two unlikely madams if you want to see the recent television interviews on both Studio 10 and SBS.




Also, our first monthly newsletter was sent out on June 25th and thankfully it was a huge success. So many of you took the initiative and started to live out your fantasies, we appreciate your support and feedback. If you haven't signed up for the monthly newsletter, send us an email or register directly through the website.  We run competitions, and remind you when the next blog has been posted and inspire you to be your very best.

Dear Aphrodite has decided to skip movie of the month, instead we celebrate "Sex, Women and TV, 21 shows that changed the way we see female desire"  This article takes us on a journey from the modern wonders of 'Orange is the new black' and 'Masters of Sex'  to the unforgettable 'I love Lucy,' 'Golden Girls' and all our favourites in between.

Masters and Johnson gave permission to women to explore their sexuality through touch, masturbation and experimenting. In keeping with the theme that knowledge is power the following video explains 20 misconceptions about sex. 



Next month we are tackling body image... Would you feel better about yourself if you saw more images of real women? We also discuss female archetypes and the power of orgasms. 

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The first time. Breaking free from sexual repression.

As he gently traced his fingers over my sweet heart neckline, a tingling sensation started in my toes. I was warm, wet and ready to burst. I wondered if I was about to have an orgasm, is it even possible to come without being naked?   He knew I had never explored my own body. He wanted me to experience how it felt, understand how it worked, with me, for me. He taught me that ancient taboos and spells are broken with a single touch, in the right place by the right person at the right time, if you let them.

I was curious about sex, but was I ready? His tender caresses felt so good. My body was begging for more but I didn't want him to stop doing what he was doing. No need to rush. Everything about the situation seemed perfect. Secret, lustful, pampering and seductive. How could it possibly be wrong? Who makes up the rules that say I shouldn't have sex until I either find a husband or at least Mr Right? Who makes us believe that a first love should also be the one and only love? Who makes us feel that it is sinful to be sensual? That we must be smart, pretty, alluring perhaps, but never ask for sex in an obvious way? Who started the rumour that no guy will remember or respect you if you give in to sex to easily?

Dear Aphrodite knows that some men will never forget that night you let all you inhibitions aside and dared to be your truest sexiest self.

Like most repressed people of the world, the permission to be free has to first come from the repressed. The truth is women's sexuality was forced into submission because it was feared, misunderstood and it can still be intimidating. There is a security in confinement. A method that provides a routine, and if we aren't happy we either try to break free or repress ourselves further. That part of us that can't be controlled becomes what we fear most.

Judgement is born through repression. Women are called sluts and whores or put on a pedestal.  Fearful or feared. Perhaps we identify more with one or the other, but most likely we are bit of both.

Every heterosexual man would like to please a woman they lust after. If they can't find out how to please her they'll eventually blame the recipient and rarely themselves.  They do everything they know. Their egos can't deal with feelings of inadequacy. Of course the way to unleash ourselves and them is to start by being honest. Educate and explore ourselves, communicate our desires, dance naked in the living room, touch yourself.  Read erotica, join the Ode to Aphrodite , Dear Aphrodite facebook or Aphrodisiac me Tumblr pages for inspiration and tantalising content. Don't just look at your body in the mirror, explore it, masturbate in front of it, open the window, let the sun and wind caress your body too. Thrill your self with sex toys, find your bliss. When the time is right, without shame, you can share your desires and all of your fantasies with someone else.

Some women have been powerfully expressing their sexuality, without shame, since time began. Which is why Dear Aphrodite's favourite movie of the month is Kama Sutra - A tale of love.

Kama Sutra - A tale of love trailer

A King falls in love with his concubine, she is beautiful and trained in the art of seduction and sexual satisfaction. She is ultimately his slave, but he can't make her love him because she is in love with a sculptor.  It is set in the 16th century full of stunning music, images, a fascinating insight into the ancient art of seduction, and that most intriguing of all relationships, friendship and jealousy between two women.

Here is the link to the full length movie  Kama Sutra - A tale of love.

An article by the The Australian, Jealousy, sex and mummies: Why women hate women, looks at the modern take on this age old dilemma between women. Focusing on ourselves will build our self confidence, which eliminates the need to be bitchy towards other women and their choices... or doubt our own choices.

In many cultures and some families, women are coerced into believing other people's ideals of what relationships and sex should be, rather than developing their own truth and listening to their own bodies. Is it any wonder our first loves tend to become obsessions that never live up to our expectations? That we expect men to fall in love with us just because we have sex with them or perhaps ignore us if we do or don't. If one woman is repressed we all are.

Here is a perfect example of the paradox. In a provoking article by Rabbi Shmuley No Holds Barred: The dangers of religious sexual repression, we are presented with arguments against religious repression, and by a Rabbi nonetheless. At the same time he tells women to cover up, make men lust after you but don't give too much of yourself too often.  Do it in the dark if you will and only with a husband. Ironically part of his rise to fame was an article he once wrote for Playboy magazine.

Men are not free of problems either.  'Unveiling the madonna - whore complex' is an article by Jodie Gummow that captures the dichotomy of the good girl vs bad girl image. In reality we are all capable of being Ice Queens by day and Fiery Devils by night.

We can be hard to relate too. We confuse many emotions with love.  Lust can make us unstable. At certain times sex is great, necessary, important, at other times we are completely indifferent. In a single month we can cycle through 'too much is never enough' - to - 'don't you dare touch me and your doing it all wrong.'

We love to nurture and be nurtured.  We love to be in total control and at other times totally subservient. Sometimes our partners can't be gentle and slow enough, and suddenly we want to dominate. We want to be pampered and, at other times they can't overcome us long enough, hard enough or fast enough. The key to this conundrum is first discovering what we really want, when we really want it and communicating it. Dear Aphrodite's favourite blog of the month comes from Layla Martin, her post What does it mean to fuck like a woman, captures some of the subtle and stark complexities of our sexuality.

With all these differing moods, swinging hormones, phases, and life stages our needs are constantly developing and changing. We may have strong preferences but sometimes the hard part is figuring out who we are and what we really want. In this article about discovering your Sex personality Tracey Cox outlines the good and not so good of 5 different sex personalities. Erotophilic or erotophobic? Which one do you relate to? Perhaps you are a little bit of everything, every woman.

Do orgasms make you laugh, cry, scream, moan, none or all of the above. Are you one of the 50% of women that have never had one? Kim Anami describes perfectly in our quote of the month, why it's necessary to explore further.

"I’ve come to view orgasms as one of the most powerful and effective personal growth tools we have access to. And they’re free. They’re portable. Available any time, anywhere..."  

In the following movie 6 women discuss orgasms and masturbation. Dear Aphrodite was hoping to find the link to a documentary made in 2009 about the recent discoveries of the clitoris. This is not that documentary but it also explains the anatomy of the one and only human pleasure organ.  It's a french film with subtitles. Make a cup of tea before you sit down to watch it. It's like a conversation you've never had with a group of your girlfriends.

The holy grail of an orgasm is the clitoris. Even after thousands of years of sexual exploration the clitoris, it seems, has been left till last. Most people still think it's the tiny lump inside the labia at the top of the vulva. In the 90's we began searching for the 'G spot.' Some people believe it's non existent, others believe it's where the corpus cavernosum and bulb of vestibule come together. Here's a diagram organ designed for pleasure. We knew something was there but who knew it was that big?

Courtesy of skepticink

Robert T Gonzalez gives us more information on the mystery of the clitoris. The Museum of Sex has an in depth article about this internal organ and more diagrams too.

As promised Dear Aphrodite will feature one a gentleman every month and where better to start than alphabetically.  Anthony was also chosen because his profile oozes knowledge about the differing needs of a woman. He knows that some of us need to learn how to discover ourselves, and some of us need to give the instructions. He can be master or servant. Log in to see Anthony's profile and hear his audio tape under the companions tab at Aphrodisiac Male Escorts. While your there check out the two new profiles from Will and Marcus too.

Courtesy of Raising Ecstasy

A lot has changed since the contraceptive pill and the sexual revolution of the 60's, but it will probably be another 1000 years before women all over the world truly know what it means to be free. The pendulum is in full swing.

Courtesy of Evans Cartoons

 Next month we'll look at sexual healing. Is seeing an escort better than seeing a therapist? Misconceptions about sex workers and role reversal of the 'pretty woman concept'.  It may or may not be a legitimate concept, but Dear Aphrodite promises to make one up based on her own experiences and theories.