The first time. Breaking free from sexual repression.

As he gently traced his fingers over my sweet heart neckline, a tingling sensation started in my toes. I was warm, wet and ready to burst. I wondered if I was about to have an orgasm, is it even possible to come without being naked?   He knew I had never explored my own body. He wanted me to experience how it felt, understand how it worked, with me, for me. He taught me that ancient taboos and spells are broken with a single touch, in the right place by the right person at the right time, if you let them.

I was curious about sex, but was I ready? His tender caresses felt so good. My body was begging for more but I didn't want him to stop doing what he was doing. No need to rush. Everything about the situation seemed perfect. Secret, lustful, pampering and seductive. How could it possibly be wrong? Who makes up the rules that say I shouldn't have sex until I either find a husband or at least Mr Right? Who makes us believe that a first love should also be the one and only love? Who makes us feel that it is sinful to be sensual? That we must be smart, pretty, alluring perhaps, but never ask for sex in an obvious way? Who started the rumour that no guy will remember or respect you if you give in to sex to easily?

Dear Aphrodite knows that some men will never forget that night you let all you inhibitions aside and dared to be your truest sexiest self.

Like most repressed people of the world, the permission to be free has to first come from the repressed. The truth is women's sexuality was forced into submission because it was feared, misunderstood and it can still be intimidating. There is a security in confinement. A method that provides a routine, and if we aren't happy we either try to break free or repress ourselves further. That part of us that can't be controlled becomes what we fear most.

Judgement is born through repression. Women are called sluts and whores or put on a pedestal.  Fearful or feared. Perhaps we identify more with one or the other, but most likely we are bit of both.

Every heterosexual man would like to please a woman they lust after. If they can't find out how to please her they'll eventually blame the recipient and rarely themselves.  They do everything they know. Their egos can't deal with feelings of inadequacy. Of course the way to unleash ourselves and them is to start by being honest. Educate and explore ourselves, communicate our desires, dance naked in the living room, touch yourself.  Read erotica, join the Ode to Aphrodite , Dear Aphrodite facebook or Aphrodisiac me Tumblr pages for inspiration and tantalising content. Don't just look at your body in the mirror, explore it, masturbate in front of it, open the window, let the sun and wind caress your body too. Thrill your self with sex toys, find your bliss. When the time is right, without shame, you can share your desires and all of your fantasies with someone else.

Some women have been powerfully expressing their sexuality, without shame, since time began. Which is why Dear Aphrodite's favourite movie of the month is Kama Sutra - A tale of love.

Kama Sutra - A tale of love trailer

A King falls in love with his concubine, she is beautiful and trained in the art of seduction and sexual satisfaction. She is ultimately his slave, but he can't make her love him because she is in love with a sculptor.  It is set in the 16th century full of stunning music, images, a fascinating insight into the ancient art of seduction, and that most intriguing of all relationships, friendship and jealousy between two women.

Here is the link to the full length movie  Kama Sutra - A tale of love.

An article by the The Australian, Jealousy, sex and mummies: Why women hate women, looks at the modern take on this age old dilemma between women. Focusing on ourselves will build our self confidence, which eliminates the need to be bitchy towards other women and their choices... or doubt our own choices.

In many cultures and some families, women are coerced into believing other people's ideals of what relationships and sex should be, rather than developing their own truth and listening to their own bodies. Is it any wonder our first loves tend to become obsessions that never live up to our expectations? That we expect men to fall in love with us just because we have sex with them or perhaps ignore us if we do or don't. If one woman is repressed we all are.

Here is a perfect example of the paradox. In a provoking article by Rabbi Shmuley No Holds Barred: The dangers of religious sexual repression, we are presented with arguments against religious repression, and by a Rabbi nonetheless. At the same time he tells women to cover up, make men lust after you but don't give too much of yourself too often.  Do it in the dark if you will and only with a husband. Ironically part of his rise to fame was an article he once wrote for Playboy magazine.

Men are not free of problems either.  'Unveiling the madonna - whore complex' is an article by Jodie Gummow that captures the dichotomy of the good girl vs bad girl image. In reality we are all capable of being Ice Queens by day and Fiery Devils by night.

We can be hard to relate too. We confuse many emotions with love.  Lust can make us unstable. At certain times sex is great, necessary, important, at other times we are completely indifferent. In a single month we can cycle through 'too much is never enough' - to - 'don't you dare touch me and your doing it all wrong.'

We love to nurture and be nurtured.  We love to be in total control and at other times totally subservient. Sometimes our partners can't be gentle and slow enough, and suddenly we want to dominate. We want to be pampered and, at other times they can't overcome us long enough, hard enough or fast enough. The key to this conundrum is first discovering what we really want, when we really want it and communicating it. Dear Aphrodite's favourite blog of the month comes from Layla Martin, her post What does it mean to fuck like a woman, captures some of the subtle and stark complexities of our sexuality.

With all these differing moods, swinging hormones, phases, and life stages our needs are constantly developing and changing. We may have strong preferences but sometimes the hard part is figuring out who we are and what we really want. In this article about discovering your Sex personality Tracey Cox outlines the good and not so good of 5 different sex personalities. Erotophilic or erotophobic? Which one do you relate to? Perhaps you are a little bit of everything, every woman.

Do orgasms make you laugh, cry, scream, moan, none or all of the above. Are you one of the 50% of women that have never had one? Kim Anami describes perfectly in our quote of the month, why it's necessary to explore further.

"I’ve come to view orgasms as one of the most powerful and effective personal growth tools we have access to. And they’re free. They’re portable. Available any time, anywhere..."  

In the following movie 6 women discuss orgasms and masturbation. Dear Aphrodite was hoping to find the link to a documentary made in 2009 about the recent discoveries of the clitoris. This is not that documentary but it also explains the anatomy of the one and only human pleasure organ.  It's a french film with subtitles. Make a cup of tea before you sit down to watch it. It's like a conversation you've never had with a group of your girlfriends.

The holy grail of an orgasm is the clitoris. Even after thousands of years of sexual exploration the clitoris, it seems, has been left till last. Most people still think it's the tiny lump inside the labia at the top of the vulva. In the 90's we began searching for the 'G spot.' Some people believe it's non existent, others believe it's where the corpus cavernosum and bulb of vestibule come together. Here's a diagram organ designed for pleasure. We knew something was there but who knew it was that big?

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Robert T Gonzalez gives us more information on the mystery of the clitoris. The Museum of Sex has an in depth article about this internal organ and more diagrams too.

As promised Dear Aphrodite will feature one a gentleman every month and where better to start than alphabetically.  Anthony was also chosen because his profile oozes knowledge about the differing needs of a woman. He knows that some of us need to learn how to discover ourselves, and some of us need to give the instructions. He can be master or servant. Log in to see Anthony's profile and hear his audio tape under the companions tab at Aphrodisiac Male Escorts. While your there check out the two new profiles from Will and Marcus too.

Courtesy of Raising Ecstasy

A lot has changed since the contraceptive pill and the sexual revolution of the 60's, but it will probably be another 1000 years before women all over the world truly know what it means to be free. The pendulum is in full swing.

Courtesy of Evans Cartoons

 Next month we'll look at sexual healing. Is seeing an escort better than seeing a therapist? Misconceptions about sex workers and role reversal of the 'pretty woman concept'.  It may or may not be a legitimate concept, but Dear Aphrodite promises to make one up based on her own experiences and theories.

Influential women and how they're changing the world.

Some things are perfect just the way they are, but change is inevitable, and often arises from a sense of injustice, dissatisfaction or a deep rooted feeling that things could be better. Do you know what it feels like to conquer fears and judgements, face opposing views, and be the change you want to see in the world?  This month Dear Aphrodite explores some women that changed the world and the resistance, both personal and public, that they faced while achieving their goals. The highlight of our month has been meeting one of Dear Aphrodite's favourite influential women, the author of Sex and the City, Candace Bushnell. We also explore language and the female anatomy, and we share some of the challenges we faced that have spawned some new ideas. 

Do you remember tuning into Sex and the City and thinking there is no way you could watch it comfortably with someone like your grandfather in the room? Many people who have followed  Dear Aphrodites facebook page have told of the same dilemma. Nevertheless, just short of a 1000 people decided join us but many choose not to click 'like' or comment on our posts because it can't be done privately. Our stats show us that people are looking and listening but last month we were all denied access to a wealth of informative articles and tantalising graphics and quotes, when the authorities at facebook decided to delete the page without any prior warning. It took about a week of emails and phone calls in an effort to get the page reinstated, but to no avail. So we've started again from scratch. In the process Dear Aphrodite realised that due to facebook's privacy settings, we would reach a broader audience if we created a fan page, that is completely detached from the business page or website but still provides insights, fun and wisdom for the wild woman at heart, by women. If you prefer discretion and aren't already following, here are the new fan pages.

Ode to Aphrodite.

Passions of Aphrodite.

Please like the pages, add them to your news feed, feel free to contribute, share or comment without any concern for what your friends/family (and friends of their friends) might think about you or the pages you choose to follow, who's going to question the wisdom of an ancient goddess?  

Breaking new ground since the 1990's is our feature goddess of the month author of Sex and the City Candace Bushnell. We were honoured to meet Candace when Business Chicks, hosted a lunch for professional women at the Palladium in Melbourne. While it was inappropriate to hand out business cards at the event, we aroused the curiosity of plenty of guests and they questioned us for more details. Candace is wise and entertaining, she will definitely be on histories list of influential women, her life is an open book, (television series and movies) and she talked about her life and the many lessons we learned from her SATC characters.  Just like Madonna did in the eighties, she has had an enormous impact on the perception of females as sexy, independent and in control of their own lives. She is a feminist that celebrates women being more than just mothers, wives or their chosen careers. SATC opened up a dialogue for women that was previously considered taboo or strictly private conversations that revolved around scandalous stories or scintillating experiences. Everything and anything was discussed and can now be googled, confirmed and affirmed. Women have discovered they are not alone.

While so many things have changed, a comparison of the next two clips proves that many of the problems women face today are exactly the same as they have always been.

In the movie Hysteria set in the 1880's we learn how and why the vibrator was invented. Did you know Queen Victoria was one of the first women to own a portable one?  What was once considered a disorder of the uterus, and treated by a Doctor, is now described by Kim Unami in her candid video, as 'The epidemic of sexually unfulfilled females.'  See if you can spot the similarities in these two, centuries apart, stories.  For a fun history lesson watching the movie is a must. 

Quote to note  ''I am not a sex addict I have restless groin syndrome.'' Anon.

Up until the 1950's vibrators were sold in women's magazines as a health product.  Vibrators are still the highest selling sex toy in the entire world, our products page has some modern varieties.

If after comparing the two videos you are not convinced that we have come a long way, Katherine Swizter will help change your mind. Author of Marathon Woman, she shares her experiences of becoming the first woman to run in the Boston Marathon.  Dear Aphrodites bows to the strength, patience and determination of this sporting pioneer of yesteryear. What was once against the law would only be outrageous now if the opposite was true.

Books, television, movies, music and even marathons have given women their voice but by far the fastest growing medium is the Internet. It has provided us with the greatest tool towards change, a free education with easy access to information. Women know more, and are demanding better. Sadly not all the information out there is reliable. Take porn for example, while it has been the motivation behind many industrial and technological advancements, like television and camcorders, it is also responsible for setting unrealistic expectations. A lot of people don't know the difference between real sex and porn sex, and given that 3/4 of people accessing porn sites are men, The New York Production Company were clearly doing women a favour when they released this very creative myth vs reality video.

How do you like your pancakes?

Dear Aphrodite is also delighted to share a new article published by Australian Women Online titled,

Aussie Mums open male escort agency catering exclusively to women. It discusses how and why Melbourne's premier male escort service for professional women was created and it also details some of the hiring processes the gentlemen go through in order to ensure the highest quality standards.  Dear Aphrodite loved the comments that it generated too. One was a glowing testimonial and another expressed frustration about prices as well as the service being marketed only to 'professional women rather than the average woman.' While Dear Aphrodite believes that 'average' woman deserves special treatment, she isn't interested in average guys. That would be like asking for a fast food menu in a fine dining restaurant. Dear Aphrodite has met working women who make a fortune perfecting the art of speedy service for men, their needs are very different to ours. Dear Aphrodite's companions are Michelin quality. Eating A la carte every night might be too expensive, luckily there are low peak rates available, but treating yourself every so often is well worth every cent.

The biggest news since the article was published is that Aphrodisiac Male Escorts have also embraced change and expanded services to include women in Sydney as well as Melbourne. You can go to the website and check out Zac's profile under the companions tab, he is a true romantic and his audio tape is also accessible once you log in. His flirtatious accent is worth a listen and we hope it makes you smile too. Dear Aphrodite's most scrupulous volunteer has requested to be notified if he happens to be travelling to Melbourne again, he's that good.

Gillian Schutte is our final inspirational woman for this month. In her blog post C is for Cunt she made us aware that change is not always positive.

While scholars will never agree on the origins of the 'C' word, Dear Aphrodite likes the idea that it once related solely to femininity and the 'wisdom of women, in particular the wisdom of her genitals.' How would you feel if someone called you a cunt...? How about a wise cunt? Learning about the etymology of words that describe female organs has made Dear Aphrodite decide to add fecund, and other 'cu' words like cunning to her vocabulary more often. Words are neither good, bad or indifferent only peoples perceptions and use of them are. Cunt is still the only word in the English language that describes all the parts of female genitalia. In parts of Scandinavia the word for Labia is 'skamlæber' which directly translates to 'shame lips.' Is it any wonder that women in Denmark are pushing for it to be changed to 'kønlæber' which translates to the shameless 'gender lips.'

Finally Dear Aphrodite's favourite quote of the month is taken direct from Candace Bushnell's talk on July 24th in Melbourne.

"I realised that the concept of when you're with Mr Big; you feel smarter, funnier and prettier and more glamorous and sexier and...you know, all those things that we all want to feel everyday. But I realised that the thing that's really wrong is that I only feel these things when I'm with Mr Big. And... I really should be able to feel these things on my own. Whether or not I'm with a man, whether I'm single or I'm married and that is something that you have to develop from the inside....and then I realised that... I didn't want to be with Mr Big...I actually wanted to be Mr Big!!" Candace Bushnell

Frankly, Dear Aphrodite never understood why Carrie married Mr Big in the end, that type of passion is usually fleeting, but with the right guy it's fun to pretend. Women need to stop judging their self worth on whether they are good enough for the object of their affection. It's always been and should always remain the other way around.

Next month we continue to celebrate influential women, delve into the psyche of emotional and physical attraction, and why an industry, that has predominately catered to the needs of men, has to be done differently to cater for many varying needs of women from every walk of life.

Welcome to Dear Aphrodite

The waiter asks whether we want dessert, he notices me looking at my date. A smile crosses my lips and I say, "not right now." My date nods and says, "soon, very soon."

Our waiter senses the rising pheromones, empties the bottle into my glass and walks away. I keep staring at my date, his eyes fixed straight back at mine. His warm hand is under the tablecloth caressing my thigh and fingering the hem of my skirt. I wasn't sure I was ready to sleep with him tonight, but we started talking dirty during entree, and I know he'll do whatever I want. I swallow the last mouthful of wine, and call for the bill, it's time to take him home.

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Other than those, all too rare, perfect nights of passion, is there anything sexier then the anticipation of sex? Welcome to Dear Aphrodite. A safe place, where women are tantalised and celebrated.

Aphrodite is a combination of many different types of woman. An ancient archetype and a contemporary modern woman. She dances to the beat of her own drum and knows that beating men at their own game, isn't about acting like men.

Aphrodite needs balance, with balance comes constant movement between positive and negative, yin and yang, she is the pacifist and the aggressor. Our dear Aphrodite has embraced both her feminine and masculine energies and encourages you to explore all of your different energies too. Your higher self, your lower self, celestial ideals and fun common normality's. Surrender to your sensitives and stimulate your sacred self, discreetly, sensuously, passionately and on your own terms.

Aphrodite the archetype is the Goddess of love, pleasure and procreation, her Roman equivalent is Venus. She can be vain, ill tempered and easily offended but she is also the Goddess of desire, her passions run deep. She has several names, many lovers and is a surrogate mother to many, she is nurturing and opinionated.

Aphrodite, the contemporary creature, is an equal combination of Carrie, Samantha, Miranda and Charlotte, no subject is taboo, similarities and differences are honoured and shared. Aphrodite will be meeting the creator of Sex and the City, Candace Bushnell at the Melbourne Business Chicks lunch being held at the Palladium on July 24th. She'll share what she learnt in the August post. If you had a chance to meet Candace what would you ask her? Aphrodite hopes in the next SATC movie, the girls open their own Aphrodisiac Male Escort company in New York. Imagine all the hard work being taken out of casual dating. Attention to detail, tried and tested, every precaution taken... the joy of just relaxing and enjoying the results, the fantasy, the excitement an awakening of dormant desires... Aphrodite is more than ready for that.

Aphrodite has other heros too, last year Dr Nickki Goldstein taught her the difference between a vagina and a vulva. In next months blog, she'll take a world tour and look at different cultures and their relationship to female anatomy. Dear Aphrodite is socially responsible and aims to cast aside negative perceptions of female libido, to educate as well as stimulate.


Much to Aphrodite's surprise the web presented her with an article by Mamma Mia (you can read it here) about Aphrodisiac Male Escorts. Dear Aphrodite welcomes the free publicity and conversations it generated, but thinks their angle of hiring an escort for a date to a wedding is a bit too stereotypical for our extraordinary clientele. Most weddings are intimate affairs these days and 'plus ones' are not the norm on invitations. Does anybody really want to introduce an escort to a small gathering of close friends and family. A business dinner with international clients or paying cash for a private date, a sexy massage, intimacy, company, or just a scratch that needs itching, is more realistic. Far better than paying with your dignity for a random stranger on the dark streets of Melbourne's nightlife.

Dear Aphrodite loves quotes and her quote of the month for July is: "I don't pay for the sex, I pay them to leave." by Charlie Sheen. In Aphrodite's ideal world, women have all the same privileges.

Aphrodite wants women to develop trust in each other. This blog is neutral territory, a place to gather a growing tribe, a gateway to a world that has been off limits for too long, a world that has been created by women for women. Are you ready for an adventure?

Aphrodite encourages you to check out the testimonials page on the website. You'll have to sign up to learn more about the carefully selected escorts, discretion is guaranteed. Perhaps your more interested in the products and services provided. Widows, divorcees, single women, or just for something different in your relationship, each client has their own specific needs and a story to tell. What's your story? Have you ever imagined hiring an escort, could any of your friend benefit from one?

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Dear Aphrodite welcomes questions, you can post anonymously in the comments below, she has an opinion that matters, a clear perspective and a desire to please. If you prefer more privacy you can email Dear Aphrodite at info@sage4women.com or ring and speak to her on 1300 132 855. Keep up to date with all the latest news by joining the mailing list, facebook, twitter or tumblr pages. There is something for everyone.


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