Saying 'No' can be the Ultimate Act of Self- care.

When you have hired a glorious male escort, how could it be an act of empowerment to then say “no?” For Nicole in Melbourne, our second blog contest winner, the answer was clear. After six years of no sex, and little even in the way of physical touch, she honored the inner voice telling her to slow down. Of course our gentleman was able to unconditionally respect her wishes and boundaries, which ultimately led to the encounter(s) of a lifetime… 

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I can’t tell you what finally prompted me to enter ‘Male Escorts Melbourne’ into a Google search late one night, but suffice to say there was wine involved. 

I’m a professional single woman in my early 30’s (*cough* okay, I’m 40) living in inner city Melbourne. In my actual early 30s, I decided after a borderline traumatic experience that I wasn’t going to have sex with a guy again unless I knew him, had spent time with him, and I liked him (i.e. no more one-nighters with assholes). Fast forward 6 years later and no sex. No kissing. No touching. Nothing. Turns out the ‘having standards’ thing was a really bad idea. 

Over the years, I completely gave up, shut down that part of me and never really thought about sex or men. There might have been nice men around, but I wouldn’t have even seen them. I’ve had some bad ideas in my time, (including a cringe worthy incident involving a guy and his fetish for pool toys) however contacting the ladies at Aphrodisiac Male Escorts was certainly one of my better ideas! 

When the big day arrived, I had been waxed, shaved, scrubbed, painted, plucked and moisturised to within an inch of my life. At least I’d feel a little confidence in being well groomed if nothing else! I’d booked a room at a hotel in the city for the occasion. When we made it upstairs, nervous doesn’t begin to describe how I felt. Sitting on the edge of the bed he reached his hand over to gently rub my back and I flinched. Hard. Not like a small one you might not notice, it was practically a jump. I physically recoiled from this beautiful man, simply because I had barely been touched by another human being in over 6 years and I was not at all used to it. 

I relaxed enough after a little while to begin to enjoy the closeness of being in his arms, his warm body pressed against mine. The divine smell of his neck and being held and kissed. That I could enjoy this with a man I’d just met was a minor miracle, though he was very sweet, so that certainly made it easier to feel comfortable. We were kissing on the bed, wrapped in each other’s arms and he started to run his hand up my thigh. I freaked out!! That was way too much for me at that point even though having sex was 100% my intention when I made the booking. I stopped his hand, said no, and we returned to kissing. 

The significance for me in that moment was huge. For the first time ever I refused to do something I wasn’t comfortable doing because I didn’t want to. I have a pretty bad history of engaging in some unpleasant (for me) pleasing activities (for him). The old ‘pre-therapy’ me would have had sex regardless of how I felt because if I please him he might like me, and surely that must mean I’m something good... right? To show myself and my feelings that level of respect finally, was one of the kindest things I’d done for myself up until that point. We were not intimate that evening. Actually I take that back. We did not have sex, but it certainly felt very intimate for me. The next time however… well, that’s between him and I! 

I’ve seen him 6 or 7 times now and for the first time in a long time, I feel so completely alive. Physically, spiritually, in every way possible. I feel completely free of the colossal amount of emotional baggage I’d been dragging around with me for the better part of a decade. I feel open and excited about what is coming next, and about all of the naughty things I now want to try and experience. I also feel incredibly feminine, beautiful and sexy! It’s in no small part to the understanding, patience, acceptance and gorgeous passion this man has shown me. My friends and family have noticed the change in me, so to a select few he is my mysterious Mr X! And I love having my little secret too! To feel strong enough, and safe enough to be extremely vulnerable is incredibly liberating and I’m very thankful. 

Now I’m not suggesting that everyone will have such a transforming experience, but the point is you owe it to yourself to find out what exciting, erotic or deeply passionate encounter could be in store for you! If you’re reading this you are more than likely curious. 

Summon up the courage and give yourself the best gift you’ve ever received. I can promise you one thing – you will discover something about yourself one way or another that you thought you’d lost long ago, or maybe never even realised was in you. And surely that’s an amazing thing!                                                   

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The competition may be over but your stories are always welcome. If you want to share one with us please send an email to info@sageforwomen.com.   You can send us an email or call 
1300 132 855 anytime if you are ready to create your own story too.  

To find out more about Winston and our other gentleman visit our website Aphrodisiac male escorts

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Getting back to you. How to fall in love with yourself.

Remember when you were a teenager and being called a 'love me do' was as shameful as being labelled a slut. Now there are over 161 million web pages trying to teach people how to love themselves and 'anti slut shaming,' has become a movement. 

Carol Rossetti

Women being made to feel inferior or guilty about their femininity or sexual behaviour is becoming a thing of the past. We aren't there yet. Empowering women is a long and unfinished battle. 

Have you ever stopped yourself wearing something or doing someone thing because of what others might think? Do you ever feel judged on first impression or belittled for your preferences and behaviour?

We have all sat on both sides of this fence. Healing this paradox of mass proportion lies within a time honoured belief. In order to love others we must first learn to love ourselves.

Imagine falling in love with someone. Now think about all of the things you would naturally experience and do for them? Then apply those same principles to yourself. 

Rather than treating others how you want to be treated, try treating yourself as well as you would treat a new or potential lover.

The key to falling in love with yourself is to become interested in yourself.

Find out what makes you tick, listen to your favourite music, visit your favourite places. Discover what lies behind the image in the mirror. 

Think about your interests, passions and accomplishments.
Getting to know someone (including yourself) can be a long process. 

When we fall in love we avoid being critical, even imperfections are perfect. Learn to appreciate yourself, including your flaws. When did you stop telling yourself the truth?

Carol Rossetti

Love, like water is the strongest most powerful thing in the world - it is also the softest.

The hardest and most important part of any relationship is building trust. How do we learn to trust others, or that we wont hurt ourselves? 

One of the clues to building trust is in the language. It doesn't come overnight, it needs to be built. We trust a bit, see that it is warranted, and then trust a little bit more. 

When we learn to trust our own natural processes, we get back to ourselves and whatever is important to us will begin to fall into place.

Whether you are married, recently single or have been celibate for decades we all have access to the knowledge it takes to find ourselves again. It lies within us all - now we can even search for it on some of the millions pages other people have written about it.

Carol Rosetti

Many of the clients at Aphrodisiac Male Escorts have written testimonials addressing the positive, long and short term, benefits of getting to know themselves better by embracing their own sexuality. 

For many women starting the journey from mourning their femininity to embracing it, again or for the first time, can be overwhelming. The power of pleasure changes everything. 

Anxiety becomes exhilaration. No more hiding the truth from themselves, lies or denying desire. They feel as if they have entered the express lane to personal development.

Check out the testimonials page for some fascinating stories from several clients. Dear Aphrodite's pick of the month is

 "...I guess this service can mean different things for different women. It’s given me the confidence and desire to start living again!"

In part 2 of The Sensuality podcast below. Anthony, one of the gentleman at Aphrodisiac Male Escorts, discusses how seeing a professional and mindful escort is a stepping stone or bridge for many women towards finding themselves again. 

Lotus Kruse has written a post about the female - centric soul after she was given a caution by a close friend. In it she describes a list of experiences that have made her female-centric, and why she honours it. You can also read about how Sandra Dee from the movie Grease taught her a few lessons on how to break out of your comfort zone and empower yourself.

One of Dear Aphrodite's goals is to create a network of women that empower women. Exposure is a necessary part of networking so recently Anna and Regina broke out of their comfort zone and went to three events to introduce Aphrodisiac Male Escorts to some of Melbourne's most powerful women. 

First was a charity event for a wonderful organisation the 
McAuley Community Services for Women. We heard first hand accounts from women who have survived domestic violence. We've heard many similar stories from our own clients.

Carol Rossetti

The Bayside Business in heels event showed that a male escort service exclusive to women will be well received by women from all walks of life. Anna and Regina were amazed at how many women were excited and supportive of Aphrodisiac Male Escorts.  

The speed-dating style introductions were super cool. Anna and Regina were inundated with questions and connections. Some of the women were asking for more than one card. 

Even if we don't personally need a push to embrace our own power, it seems many of us know a woman that does.

Carol Rossetti

Finally we were thrilled to meet and hear Lisa Messenger, founder and editor-in-chief of Collective Hub, speaking at the Melbourne Business in Heels event. 

In a world of "gonna's" Lisa Messenger is a doer and we are completely head over heels in awe of her. She is a power house and has a score of impressive achievements that consistently challenge the status quo. A woman that is leading the battle of empowerment. We hope to feature an article with her in the coming months.

This months feature companion Erica has also bought forth a burst of new ideas. Dear Aphrodite is dreaming of world where all men are the type of lovers that would be hired by Aphrodisiac Male Escorts. Erica would be the woman to teach them.

Carol Rossetti

Erica is a confident, experienced and playful temptress. If you're wanting to explore more freedom or are feeling unsatisfied in your relationship she can heighten your sexual experiences. 

She is available for women and couples alike. She will make first timers feel at ease, and though she may leave you wanting for more she will satisfy all of your needs.

All of the images on this months post are by the graphic designer Carol Rosetti. Carol's album title WOMEN - in English "as both a reminder and affirmation of women's bodily autonomy." Connect with Carol on her on facebook page.

Part of the journey of getting back to you includes being in touch with your body. Carols artwork is based on her own and other women's real life experiences. 

Carol Rossetti

 


If you are looking for a laugh this month, check out Liz Miele's comedy sketch retaliating to jokes about sexual positions that degrade women or mess up her hair. She has three new sex position jokes for women. Whats your favourite? Dear Aphrodite loves all three.




Check out Lisa Miele's full 8 minute gig here.

Do you have an opinion or question about how to get back to you? Use the comments section below to ask Dear Aphrodite anything you like. If you'd rather be less public email your questions with Dear Aphrodite in the subject line, and we'll post the answer in the next post.

If it's much more personal and you prefer to speak to someone you can trust, give Anna and Regina a call on 1300 132 855.  Discretion is guaranteed.

Next month we are going to follow on with the journey of self love, and try and get women talking about the kind of lovers they really want, and how to get them. 

In the meantime our Tumblr page should keep your imagination entertained or click the links below to join one of our Facebook groups.

Dear Aphrodite - For the wild woman at heart.

Passions of Aphrodite – Fan Page, not linked to the business. Safe to share amongst your friends. 

Check out the Aphrodisiac Male Escorts website for more testimonials, our companion's profiles, products and services (including fantasy island.)  

Email: info@sageforwomen.com

Phone: 1300 132 855

Aphrodisiac ME

Single doesn't have to mean celibate.

There are so many reasons women choose celibacy. For some it is a choice they find empowering and liberating. Others don't have the time to seek meaningful or casual relationships. It's a safe form of preventing pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections. Some women choose celibacy because they have been hurt, suffered a loss or aren't ready to share their body and emotions. It's fair to say for many celibacy is not a choice, whether she craves sex or intimacy, there is often a lack of suitable partners.

Many of the new clients at Aphrodisiac Male Escorts have been celibate for extended periods of time, not just months, but years or decades. This may come as no surprise. The fact that many of them soon move on to form meaningful relationships is a pleasant phenomena that begs the question.  What makes a sexually active woman more attractive?

Dear Aphrodite thinks it might have something to do with the smile she can't wipe off her face.  It also has a lot do with endorphins and hormones.  Oestrogen is a hormone that makes our skin soft and our hair shiny, levels double when a woman has sex.

Oestrogen protects the heart and reduces the risk of Alzheimer's and Osteoporosis. Endorphins reduce pain and stress, and improve sleep and menstrual cycles. Then there are the 10 health benefits of having an orgasm described in this article at Flo Living.

It's not just about the way a woman looks, healthy is sexy. Having sex improves our senses, we hear better and smell better, it increases brain activity, which makes us smarter too.

Our confidence and self esteem are boosted.  Subtle energy shifts help us move better, dress better. This, of course, also depends on the quality of the sex.  Anything less than having our desires met, is at best frustrating. Sometimes it's not even about having sex but owning our sexuality, our femininity.

Getting your horny back.

When was the last time you had good sex, any sex?  Dr Shannon Chavez, integrates both physical and psychological methods to help women become sexually empowered. Her recent article answers the question I feel no desire or arousal what can I do to get my horniness back?  She tells us 'not to wait for desire to magically appear. Watching a movie, reading erotica or listening to sexy music... can lead to sex.' Aphrodisiac Me's tumblr page is full of arousing images.

s3xylicious

Raunchy or relaxed, slow is a good place to start. A romantic dinner, a dance class or drinks to begin. Perhaps a long kiss, tantra massage and an in depth Yoni massage will get the mood going. A favourite fantasy, or just some much needed training.  If you want it and you haven't got it, where can you go to get it - for the first time, regularly or every time?

Dear Aphrodite would like to introduce our featured companion for the month, André. He knows how to slow down. A trained and absolute master.  He holds the keys to the secret desires of many women. Log into the Aphrodisiac ME  page, and click on the companions tab to hear his audio tape. Read about his abilities to free a woman's inhibitions, clear her mind and tap into her unique sexual expression.

This month André is featured in an article by ManTalk magazine. In the article The business of pleasure he discusses everything from being an escort, the facts and the myths, experiences with his clients as well as what it means to be a Sex Surrogate. He is eloquent, intelligent and it is obvious that he knows more about the anatomy of women, inside and out, than most women know themselves.

Dear Aphrodite's movie of the month is a TED talk that made us cry, laugh and rejoice. Sheila Kelley explains the importance, and beauty, of unleashing feminine sexuality. Let's get naked - goes for 21 minutes, but you'll want to watch it again. Share it if it touches you.  It's not for everybody. Some people are asexual.  If you are woman that feels like you are missing out on something this video is for you.





We are far more complicated than men are sexually, the focus isn't just the genitals. Focusing on any one area can bring enormous pleasure. The average couple spends 15 minutes having sex but it can take a women 45 minutes just to get turned on.

Even if it's one night only, when you connect with someone else, new possibilities open up. A simple gesture or eye contact can open your heart. Physical touch - can open your entire being. Aphrodisiac ME takes care of the details, whether it's social or intimate you can just enjoy yourself. While it may not be good for repeat business, helping women open up to love again, or just healing part of their past pain is worth it.  If it can work for one it can work for many.

People have pre-conceived ideas about what the sex industry is all about. Dear Aphrodite is part of a worldwide movement to turn the focus back to honouring women.  Whether she is in gumboots or stilettos she defines womanhood.

There is a broad range of women who have used the services of Aphrodisiac Male Escorts. They differ in age, shape, backgrounds, marital status and professions but they all had to make that first phone call or email enquiry.  Each enquiry is treated individually in a non-committal, non judgemental and guaranteed private environment.

Dear Aphrodite's quote of the month is by Alan Moore (25,000 years of erotic freedom.)

Are you ready to be progressive? Do you want to meet André or one of the other companions? Zac and Raul are based in Sydney, you can check out their profiles on the website too. No matter where you are, our companions are prepared to travel, Australia wide and abroad. 

If you are tempted but not sure it's the right time for you, it's possible to meet a companion without any obligation to follow through with an appointment. First Impressions offer women an opportunity to meet up and decide if they like what they see. If after 10 minutes you change your mind he will leave, if you like what you see, you decide what comes next.

It's time to get your sexy back,turn on that part of feminine energy that so easily gets turned off. Every woman, at any age can be in touch with her primal energies, not just the youthful fashionistas plastered all over our media. In Brianna Weist's post, confidence tops the list of 14 of the most powerfully hot qualities people can have. Are you feeling confident?

Next month Dear Aphrodite discusses why it's so hard for women to talk about sex, and explore if this has anything to do with the 'Matilda vs Matthew effect.' Why do women bring each other down, instead of respecting each other's paths and honouring each others individuality?  Dear Aphrodite has taken the grown woman's oath. Will you?  

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